24 Bits About Me, Before 24!

A few of you who don’t know me have been messaging the page and asking me lately to talk about the person behind the words…I’ve also made a couple of new friends who seemed to be really keen to know some more about me. That got me thinking…This month, I turn 24, on the 24th =) And that gave me the idea to do this post, of 24 random things about the person behind the blog – lil ol’ me =) So, here goes:

24 Things That Make Me, Me

  1. I am left-handed, and strongly so. I find it really hard to do things with my right hand, though I am consciously trying to be nicer and give it a little more attention. I am also tired of having to adjust to a righty world, but you have to do what you have to do, hey?
  2. I have weird toes that point in the wrong direction. Literally, they go against the curves and norms of normal shoes. So wearing tight or closed footwear can be a real pain, more often than not. In saying that, I am a trooper and will only complain after I come back home about all the walking I did =P
  3.  I absolutely love to dance. I have learnt a whole bunch of dances, from the traditional to the not very so. But it takes a lot of coaxing to get me to perform in public. Clubs and stuff are fine, nothing outside that, which would involve people looking at me.
  4. I don’t like nuts in my ice cream and chocolate, but I love to eat the regular kind fresh. I’m always nibbling on almonds or cashews, or mixed nuts. But I refuse to have them as part of my sweet afflictions.
  5. Speaking of which, I love ice cream. I firmly believe that ice cream will help with the healing of anything – heartbreak, illness, PMS symptoms, you name it. Of course, since diets cannot be considered healthy with too much of it, unhappiness must be dealt with in other ways.
  6. While on the subject of food, I don’t like whole tomatoes in my food. I can cook with them, I can have anything that uses them as a paste, puree or even whole cooked…But I cannot eat them fresh. So my Subway salads and subs always have tomatoes conspicuously missing.
  7. Other ways to deal with unhappiness include – a good book, good music, good company, great hugs or good movies. Nothing makes me happier than animated movies! And they are all I need to feel happy and hopeful again.
  8. I love to physically write, and I have many books, diaries and journals to prove it. I keep talking about writing as therapy, and I really believe it is for me. There is no better feeling than actually sitting with a book and a pen and pouring out my soul onto paper.
  9. I wrote A LOT growing up. In fact, at one point I wrote so much, that I actually had a mini book in the making, with 10 chapters in it.
  10. Cooking and baking are my other forms of therapy, when I’m not having ice cream or writing. I cook to clear my head so I can think properly, and de-stress. And I bake to unwind, and sometimes as a means of procrastination =P
  11. My musical taste is spectacularly broad, but my favourite songs have lyrics that are deep and mean something to me, rather than just ones that sound good.
  12. I have learnt the basic alphabet in British sign language, but I’m trying to learn more. Including words, and how to talk sentences, the whole shebang.
  13. Speaking of languages, I know 6 languages so far. 4 are Indian languages, but still. They are – in order of proficiency – English (of course), Hindi, Malayalam, Marathi, Tamil and Arabic. I am in the process of learning my 7th – Spanish.
  14. I cannot deal with compliments too well. I used to be so bad that I’d just mumble a thank you and disappear away, avoiding conversations that extended the topic. I never thought I was actually good at much, so I wasn’t sure anything anyone said was genuine. I’m getting much better with time, and have learnt to appreciate good things said to me =)
  15. I believe in certain superstitions. I am a firm believer in making a wish from your heart at 11:11, and making a wish upon the first star I see at night. It gives me hope that what my heart desires may someday come true, until what/whom I wish for is no longer available.
  16.  If you haven’t figured it out by my birthdate that I mentioned earlier, I am a Scorpio, by zodiac signs. I don’t particularly believe in sign compatibility, but I think there’s a bit you can learn by your zodiac. That’s why my second tattoo was designed the way it was; it has influences of the Scorpio in it.
  17. I work best under pressure. I could have all the time in the world to do something, but some of my best work comes just hours before the deadline. This is both a boon and a bane…I’ll stew over something for the longest time, but only wrap it up when I know I’m pretty much out of time.
  18. I do not own, nor do I wish to own, anything that is pink. I really do not like pink, as a colour for me. I don’t mind it on anyone else and their belongings, but it upsets me to have anything to do with the colour.
  19. Speaking of things that upset me, I really don’t like thunderstorms. You will find me with headphones in my room with the blinds/curtains drawn when there is one, more often than not with my teddy(s). If I don’t have access to any of these things, whoever is with me will have to deal with giving me hugs and calming conversations.
  20. I love football (or soccer, as some people like to call it), video games, comic book characters, superhero movies, conversations about cars and bikes, sports, pokemon (OMG POKEMON!)…basically things that are dominantly considered ‘guy territory’. A lot of people are surprised by this. But I think it had a lot to do with hanging out with my brother, his friends, and just way too many guy friends in general. And it always makes for VERY interesting conversations =)
  21. All my immediate family members (my mum, my dad, and my brother) have been in pretty major road accidents. Which made it really difficult for me to get behind the wheel, and petrified of roads in general.
  22. Speaking of roads and driving, I would rather park a car, than drive. I love the feeling of being able to drive, but given a choice, I’d rather call shotgun when someone else is driving, and park for them (parallel or otherwise) if they need me to.
  23. I am a strong believer in karma. You put good vibes out into the world, at some point, they will be returned. You put bad vibes out, no matter how good your life is, you will be pushed to the ground sooner or later.
  24. I believe I have the ultimate tough person act going on, and I’m very careful about showing my true sentiments. I have a massive wall I keep building, and it takes a lot to bring it down. And even then, unless you’re extremely persistent and special, chances are you may find it a struggle to get in, if you think it’s worth it, that is =) But I’m working on being nicer and letting people know me, hence this list ^_^

Hope this gives all of you some insight into who I am….It was a tough task getting to 24, but if I get to a point I can think of more, you will be the first to know! Any questions, comments and criticisms are always welcome. And if you feel like it, you’re more than welcome to tell me about yourselves. I’d love to know who my readers are =)

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Day 6 — Dear relatives/family I’m fond of

Note: I’ve had a lot of trouble dealing with my extended family in general. Each one increasingly gave me reasons not to like them. Whether it’s their constant interference in my life (or that of my immediate family’s), or it’s their irreversible need to show off about how and why they perceive their families to be better…it was all unnecessary growing up. And it made me loathe them, for a while in my life. Then I realised it wasn’t worth my time and energy. So, I just focused on the select few that brought happiness to me. This is for them.

Dear relatives/family I’m fond of,

When I started this letter, I actually realised that there were not many people I’d write this to.

To start with, my grandmom. Probably the MOST amazing lady I’ve been blessed with. She’s been such a wonderful light in my life, shining happiness whenever I am around her. She has stuff to talk to me about that are about world happenings, local news and gossip, or just plain family stuff. But at the same time, if I wanted to ramble on about something, I know she’ll always be willing to listen to me. She is probably one of the most forward thinking of a lot of people in her age group from our culture, and for that I will forever be grateful. For the little quirks that come with it all, I love you!

Next, some of my wonderful family (though distant) in the US. Each one of you – N, K, Shu and Chi – and your parents have just been absolutely amazing people, for whatever time we have gotten to spend with each other. I cherish the fact that I have such inspirational people in my life to look up to, and to stand together with. Thank you, and I love you, for being such delightful people!

Next up, S. We’ve weathered a lot of storms (so to speak) with our respective families. And with those that inevitably connect us. I know I probably haven’t done you the justice of being your cousin sis in the past couple of years, but every time I see you, I realise that I don’t need to worry. Any number of years from now if and when I see you, it’ll be like barely any time has passed.

And finally, saving the best for last. My almost namesake, NK. I cannot believe we haven’t bonded before this. I feel like we were meant to be sisters forever, not just cousins. You’ve been my most shining exception of ‘I don’t hang out with my family much’, because you brought out a side in me I hadn’t had before – for any family member. You taught me to laugh at silly things, to joke about the trivial and mundane stuff that could get us down, and to smile more. Discovering and rediscovering random TV series’ with you is one of the most fun things EVER. You, missy, were also the reason I could get the parents to get on board about the tattoos, so I will be forever thankful for that! I love how you have seamlessly become a part of my friends’ circle too. You should know it is completely because you have a stellar personality, and there is barely any reason for people not to delight in your company. If they do, they’re not worth it in the first place! I want you to know that you mean the world to me, and I’d go to the moon and back for you if you asked me to :)

I end this here with a parting thought. There are people I’m related to in my life that I love, and there are people I tolerate. I don’t hate or despise anyone, because no one has given me a reason to. I may not like some of them from time to time, but then again, you can”t always like everyone, right? I’m just glad I’m allowed to interact with who I want, when I want. And I’m glad that I choose  to be happy, irrespective of which of these people chooses to be part of my life (or doesn’t).

Love,

Me

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Day 5 — Dear friends that are like family

Note: I have some friends who have become like family. Thanks in major part to the fact that Mum is a teacher, and these are mostly men who were her students at some point. And one who wasn’t. All, truly wonderful men.Dear friends that are like family,Where do I even begin this letter? Each of you has played such a wonderful role in my life; I don’t think my story would ever be complete if you hadn’t.

To start with, RD. You were there for me at a time when I felt there was no where to turn. Facing what I did with my family, and sometimes friends, in those high school years…You were someone who gave me the advice, the push to carry on. You showed me that no matter what life threw at me, I was strong enough to deal with it. And if I wasn’t, you were always there, waiting till I got back on my feet…letting me know in your own way that life was going to be okay. And you probably made the most difference in my life by stepping in, during those years when I was missing the comfort, guidance and solace of a brother. By being the brother I couldn’t have at that time. Only because the one I had and I couldn’t figure out that bond for the longest time. You’ve changed my life for the better, and even if we barely talk as much as we used to, if ever, know that the place you hold in my heart is very special, and always will be.

Coming to the six wonderful people who became a part of my life thanks to Mum – Sha, Sho, Re, Ka, Wa and Vi (Sorry men, it was easier this way :P ). All of you have been absolutely wonderful for my mum. Being there when she needed someone to pour her heart out too – because we all know she did. I was still finding my way in life till I became that person for her as well. But, I think each of you gave her heart an incredible amount of solace through the pain she felt. Perspective to all the problems and situations she put forward. And a warm hug when there was nothing left to say. For that, I’m forever thankful to each of you. If not for you all, I may not have had the strength to the bond that I share with her today.
Sha, you’ve always been the one to make Mum feel at ease. And with me, you have been the one to give me straight up what you think. You’ve been rather open about all that goes through your mind. I wish we’d talk more, I wish we’d lived more memories together. But, for all that we have, and all that we will, know I’ll always love you habibi :)
Sho and Re…You guys became a major part of my life in the past couple of years, more than ever. You were always there in our lives, but I felt your presence when we connected over time. Having you both in the same country as me gave me a sense of peace. To know that if I wanted to hear a friendly voice or feel love and warmth without judgement or reason, I could just come see you guys. Even though we don’t have that now, I’ve made some stellar memories with you both. Sho, in particular, you have always made me realise what joy I bring into your life. You don’t know what an amazing feeling it is, to be able to feel that. And some of the things you say, have always made my heart glow. Thank you, for being a sounding board for Mum and me, and for all the wonderful things you say and do for us. Re, you have been one of those people that has brought a lot of sunshine in my life. We don’t talk much – more your fault than mine :P – but when we do, I’ve made awesome memories :) All I ask is you keep in touch more. But even if you don’t, I won’t hold it against you! I love both of you very much, to the moon and back even!
Ka, you’re pretty much in the same boat as Re with the keeping in touch part. But as I said, I won’t hold it against you. Well, maybe a little bit, but only because I could have seen so much more of you when we were in the same city. You have always been someone I could have a conversation with endlessly, and it didn’t have to be about something in particular. It just gave me pure joy. I love you to bits mister, and always will.
Wa. You bring that happy energy to us at home. You have been wonderful with my friends circle, and to Mum, and to anyone who knows you in general. Take care of your heart, and know that I’ll always be there to look out for you. Much love!
Last, but not the least, Vi. You may not have been around much, but when I talk to you, I feel like a little child all over again. Not in the sense that you belittle me, but that you encourage me to see the joy that life has to offer! You’ve lost that in your life a bit recently I feel, and I honestly hope you get it back. Love you beby ;)

All of you are deserving of my love and there is not one moment I would take back that we have shared. I’d not change anything either, except maybe that I hear more from most of you.

Know I am here when you need me. It is a promise I intend to keep. And know, that promise is not an empty one.

Love,

Me

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Day 3 — Dear Mum and Dad

Dear Mum and Dad,

To start this off, I’d like to say…thank you. Yes, I don’t think I say that enough, but thank you for being the reason I came to exist in this world. And for encouraging two of my greatest passions – writing, and reading. And for being good to both, me and my brother. We may not tell you this, but you should know we love you. A special thanks, just for the library you’ve given me through all the years of my life! You don’t know the joy it has given me!

Mum (or the countless other random names I come up with for you). You are the reason I’ve come to love reading. You have inspired me to be the best version of myself, as you have inspired the innumerable children you have taught. You being a teacher has instilled in me my tendency to want to help people. I probably take it to a whole new level because, well, sometimes I try to help even those that others say can’t be helped.
Our relationship as mother and daughter has been through a lot, and over the years we began living in India, we realised we could be friends too. Talking to you about things that are on my mind, listening to things that are on yours…And trying to give you my point of view through it. Not many people are lucky enough to have that. But, on the other hand, as time goes by, a part of me really wishes you see the changes in me. About life, love, and things that matter to me. I can’t talk to you about them, because they do not match your point of view. Hopefully, someday, this will change. If not, you will (I hope) take it to be a part of the woman I have become, not the little girl you used to know :)

Dad/ Pops/ Acha…You have been a wonderful man to me. Cherished my presence and gave true meaning to the phrase Daddy’s little girl. I have been a social butterfly throughout my life thanks to you. You taught me the importance of friendship, and keeping bonds strong no matter what. You saw potential in some things I said and did, and for that I shall always be grateful. But, on the other hand, you haven’t been that generous with my brother. He deserves more, and one day you will see what I see in him too. Hopefully the long conversations I have with you, fiercely defending him, will have an impact!
I know you hope for certain things for us, and at some point, if they are meant to be – they will be. Just keep the faith :)

To both of you. Whatever differences we all have had, I’m still glad to have you both in my life. We may be dysfunctional in a lot of ways, but we’re learning to work with that. No one knows for sure how dysfunctional we really are, and that is saying something :) We will make it through whatever it is, I hope.

Also, I have some strong views about some things, I know. But that is solely because I am my own person. Whether you agree with them or not, I need to be able to make my own mistakes, so I can learn from them on my own. I genuinely love you both, and I have no reason or intention to hurt you. If I do, I apologise. But I will make my path in life, on my own two feet. And you both shall see, you will have a reason (or many) to be proud of me.

Love,

Me

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30 before 30? …(Continued)

My 30 before 30 list (Part 2):

16. Learn how to ice-skate and go ice-skating at a beautiful place.

17. Buy myself an Apple product/something ridiculously expensive; with my own money. Yes, Apple products are under my ‘ridiculously expensive’ umbrella.

18. Live by the beach, for a few days at least! Gold Coast trip at Q1. But there’s got to be more, it was beautiful.

The beach at Gold Coast!

The beach at Gold Coast!

My legs with my weird feet. That Gold Coast beach was divine.

My legs with my weird feet. That Gold Coast beach was divine.

19. Go on a short trip with friends (maybe a couple of days or more). Gold Coast, Matheran, Goa. There’ve got to be more (clearly, I love travelling!)

What we see as we walk into the beautiful land.

What we see as we walk into the beautiful land.

There's nothing like disconnecting from the busy world. And reconnecting with nature.

There’s nothing like disconnecting from the busy world. And reconnecting with nature.

20. Gather travelling experiences. I know I will see Australia. I hope to see Spain, Italy, Brazil, France and New Zealand too. And if possible, to visit the countries that all my wonderful friends belong to!

21. Do volunteer work in a serious way. Always loved doing this…something very close to my heart.

22. Have at least 5 ads published. As a copywriter, I needed to have one of these on my list. With two dream hotel/resort clients while I worked in my first job, that wish came true!

First ad ever published!

First ad ever published!

23. Learn to ride a bicycle, someday! Yes, I’ve never had anyone to teach me. Either they were too busy, or they figured they didn’t need to. Instead, I taught myself to rollerblade. Hopefully, I’ll learn to cycle too someday.

24. Treat my family to something special; either all together, or just for each of them separately.

25. Get back in touch with writing, for the love of it. It’s happened. This blog is testament to that. But I won’t cross it out, lest I lose touch with it.

26. Go on a road trip. It’s something I cannot get enough of. Went on one to Byron Bay. I look forward to another few, and I’m calling shotgun on all of them!

27. Witness a meteor shower with someone/some people that matter. Or at least, see a shooting star! And yes, for the silly reason I want to make a wish on it, because my inner child believes it could come true.

28. See a sunset, and a sunrise – in that order – with someone who matters. Whether it’s a friend, or someone special (oh wait…there’s no reason that that someone can’t be both!), having a day that goes long into the night and continues till morning is a dream. Specially with the added bliss of star gazing *sigh*

29. Let my inner romantic live a little, and do something absolutely romantic. It’s something silly, I know. But I’ve been inspired to do this, and I hope to cross this off in the next few years! It could be anything, from being kissed in the rain, to dining by the beach – under the stars. A girl can dream, right?

30. Find someone who loves me for me, and who can deal with all the quirks I have. Falling in love, without losing myself, perhaps? This is probably going to be the difficult – if not impossible – one. But, as they say, if your dreams don’t scare you, they’re not big enough. It can be an emotional challenge, but, one that is to be faced. Even if it doesn’t happen, what matters is that I tried.

This list contains all the (mostly) simple things my heart hopes and dreams for. But they are all a bit long term. It’s just a fun way to go through life, and I will hopefully love every moment of trying to cross off these things!

I also plan on making another list, which has things that are a bit more short term, and possibly, even more fun, and maybe even downright silly!

It’s a good practice, and I’d strongly suggest anyone reading this to consider making a list of their own. It doesn’t need to be over-ambitious, it doesn’t need to all be achievable even. It doesn’t even have to have a limit to it! What it needs to have is your heart. Both, in creating it…and in hoping it gets completed.

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