30 before 30? Here’s hoping!

Bucket lists are an awesome concept. They give you a sort of push towards doing more things in life. But most people see themselves as too young to make a bucket list. And before you know it, life passes them by. I always wanted to do the bucket list thing after watching the movie of the same name, but figured as life goes on, my age may be a barrier to some things. Or sometimes some other factor (family, life in general, who knows…). So I figured, why not make a list for every 10-year milestone? After all, you never know which milestone may just be your last…(yes, slightly morbid, but realistic too). And that’s how this list was born.

I’m taking a big step with this. But I’ve been thinking, why not make an actual commitment out of the fact that I want to do 30 things before I turn 30? And not just things that are life goals…but things that make me genuinely happy. If it’s on here, I may actually get around to doing it all, hopefully.

I made this list before I turned 21(way back in October 2010), and as I did, the first thing on the list got crossed off. So through time since then, I’ve been trying to cross of some more things. Here’s the way the list stands today!

My 30 before 30 list (Part 1):

1. Get a tattoo. I actually got two! So far, I’m sticking to those many.

My tattoos <3

My tattoos <3

2. Get a dog.

3. Learn to play the guitar. At least one song, if not more.

4. Learn to cook, properly! It is a continuous process, but it has happened. And I love it!

My attempt at pretty chocolate cupcakes!

My attempt at pretty chocolate cupcakes!

5. Visit Goa at least once. It deserves another proper visit, but once has happened. And it was divine :)

6. Experience and explore India. A land of wonders, there are places I still have to discover within it.

7. Go to Australia for my Masters. Already done with a whole year of it!

Story bridge. Rather iconic, and heartwarmingly beautiful.

Heartwarmingly beautiful.

What I see on my walks everyday through the street mall!

What I see on my walks everyday
             through the street mall!

My uni, where I've met some of the best people of my life.

My uni, where I’ve met some of
           the best people of my life.

8. Learn sign language properly. I know the basic two-handed alphabet of BSL. I’d like to learn more.

9. Go on a long trip/backpacking, with friends/alone (at least a couple of weeks). I’m hoping it’s at one of the foreign land locations!

10. Go to a live concert. David Guetta was definitely a great first concert to go to. But hands down, Coldplay was divine, and has made me infinitely happy!

Creamfields 2012, when the crowd was arriving.

Creamfields 2012, when the crowd was arriving.

David Guetta. Standing on his console, like a boss!

David Guetta. Standing on his console, like a boss!

Coldplay at Suncorp Stadium. Yeah baby <3

Coldplay at Suncorp Stadium. Yeah baby <3

11. Learn Spanish. It has always been a language that I have loved. And, I’m glad to say, I have finally begun with the learning!

12. Learn another foreign language. Maybe Italian, or Chinese even.

13. Read at least 50 novels, more if time permits. It shouldn’t be a point here, but then again…it should. My love for reading needs to be kept alive, and I always want to have a response to the statement ‘So, what are you reading right now?’

14. Do more discovering. About myself, people, places and cuisines. Just trying to find something new every month. I’ve realized that I love doing this, and it’s something absolutely wonderful to do. It gives me such happiness, and I try discovering things about all four things every month =)

15. Get out of my comfort zone, in as many ways as possible. Whether it’s the food that I usually eat, the drinks that I drink, the kind of people I make friends with, the way I feel about love, taking a risk and dating someone I’m scared of taking it to the next level with, or a blind date…Everything needs to be experimented with and explored. Something new may just surprise me, and work!

Continued…

30 before 30? …(Continued)

My 30 before 30 list (Part 2):

16. Learn how to ice-skate and go ice-skating at a beautiful place.

17. Buy myself an Apple product/something ridiculously expensive; with my own money. Yes, Apple products are under my ‘ridiculously expensive’ umbrella.

18. Live by the beach, for a few days at least! Gold Coast trip at Q1. But there’s got to be more, it was beautiful.

The beach at Gold Coast!

The beach at Gold Coast!

My legs with my weird feet. That Gold Coast beach was divine.

My legs with my weird feet. That Gold Coast beach was divine.

19. Go on a short trip with friends (maybe a couple of days or more). Gold Coast, Matheran, Goa. There’ve got to be more (clearly, I love travelling!)

What we see as we walk into the beautiful land.

What we see as we walk into the beautiful land.

There's nothing like disconnecting from the busy world. And reconnecting with nature.

There’s nothing like disconnecting from the busy world. And reconnecting with nature.

20. Gather travelling experiences. I know I will see Australia. I hope to see Spain, Italy, Brazil, France and New Zealand too. And if possible, to visit the countries that all my wonderful friends belong to!

21. Do volunteer work in a serious way. Always loved doing this…something very close to my heart.

22. Have at least 5 ads published. As a copywriter, I needed to have one of these on my list. With two dream hotel/resort clients while I worked in my first job, that wish came true!

First ad ever published!

First ad ever published!

23. Learn to ride a bicycle, someday! Yes, I’ve never had anyone to teach me. Either they were too busy, or they figured they didn’t need to. Instead, I taught myself to rollerblade. Hopefully, I’ll learn to cycle too someday.

24. Treat my family to something special; either all together, or just for each of them separately.

25. Get back in touch with writing, for the love of it. It’s happened. This blog is testament to that. But I won’t cross it out, lest I lose touch with it.

26. Go on a road trip. It’s something I cannot get enough of. Went on one to Byron Bay. I look forward to another few, and I’m calling shotgun on all of them!

27. Witness a meteor shower with someone/some people that matter. Or at least, see a shooting star! And yes, for the silly reason I want to make a wish on it, because my inner child believes it could come true.

28. See a sunset, and a sunrise – in that order – with someone who matters. Whether it’s a friend, or someone special (oh wait…there’s no reason that that someone can’t be both!), having a day that goes long into the night and continues till morning is a dream. Specially with the added bliss of star gazing *sigh*

29. Let my inner romantic live a little, and do something absolutely romantic. It’s something silly, I know. But I’ve been inspired to do this, and I hope to cross this off in the next few years! It could be anything, from being kissed in the rain, to dining by the beach – under the stars. A girl can dream, right?

30. Find someone who loves me for me, and who can deal with all the quirks I have. Falling in love, without losing myself, perhaps? This is probably going to be the difficult – if not impossible – one. But, as they say, if your dreams don’t scare you, they’re not big enough. It can be an emotional challenge, but, one that is to be faced. Even if it doesn’t happen, what matters is that I tried.

This list contains all the (mostly) simple things my heart hopes and dreams for. But they are all a bit long term. It’s just a fun way to go through life, and I will hopefully love every moment of trying to cross off these things!

I also plan on making another list, which has things that are a bit more short term, and possibly, even more fun, and maybe even downright silly!

It’s a good practice, and I’d strongly suggest anyone reading this to consider making a list of their own. It doesn’t need to be over-ambitious, it doesn’t need to all be achievable even. It doesn’t even have to have a limit to it! What it needs to have is your heart. Both, in creating it…and in hoping it gets completed.

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You’re next! Yeahh…No.

It’s strange, how a lot of discussions in the family start turning towards the dreaded topic of ‘getting married and settling down’. Or ‘you should be learning to cook for your married life’. Or even, ‘everyone else is getting married, you should be thinking about it too. You’re not going to be young forever!’ Or the most epic one, at someone else’s wedding – ‘You do realise, you’re next? Aren’t you looking forward to it?!’ Ummm, no. The woes of crossing the 21 year milestone of your life! *sigh*

I should probably mention here that I come from an Indian family, South Indian at that. It is quite common in our culture to get married as early as at the age of 20. 18 even, sometimes. It is also a common practice to have arranged marriages. I should also mention, I’ve turned 23 recently.

My entire family had been trying to get me hitched since my 21st, and I put my foot down. I said till I turn 25, there better be no talk of marriage in our home, or they lose me. Though in hindsight, that doesn’t leave me much time. It’s creeping up in two years! But, as time has passed since then, I’m beginning to see reasons to not get married, in the foreseeable future, at least.

One of my main problems with marriage is that people don’t get that it’s not about securing a ‘safe’ future for yourself. It’s about building a future YOU wish for, with someone YOU decide to make a part of your life. Society doesn’t have a right to have a say in this. No matter how much they try and muscle-arm their way into showing that they do.

Also, I just can’t commit to the idea of dealing with another family, and changing myself because of it. I’m open to change, but not to the extent of changing the person I am. It’s not always the case for every marriage, sure. There are some wonderful families who can welcome even the most distinctive of individuals into their fold with open arms. They know you are an individual in your own right, and don’t expect you to change. But I’ve seen it asked for, more often than not. Hell, I’ve even seen it with my own parents’ marriage.

I don’t want to have the kind of marriage that my parents have. I mean, I love both of them and they’re wonderful people, individually. But as a couple, I only see a kind of respect between them, rather than love. After almost 30 years of marriage, I’ve just never felt that they were ‘in love’. I need to know that I am very much in love if and when I decide to take that leap of faith with someone.

Just because someone isn’t married to the one they love, does not mean the relationship isn’t valid. You don’t need a certificate to prove that you’re in love, or even to hope that that love lasts forevermore. Because, in life, there are no guarantees. You work, and you work hard, for what you want! If the certificate guarantees that your love would last forever, the divorce rate wouldn’t be as high as it was.

The idea of committing to another person doesn’t freak me out, not one bit. I’m a big believer in love, romance and all that. And that’s what marriage is about.

The only problem in this stand I take is…my love life. Or my apparent lack of it. People tend to believe I’m staying off men, dating, love and relationships. But I’m not. Not in the least. I have realised that if ever there is a time I will change the views I’ve aired above, it’ll be when a man who loves me enough to convince me does so. Sounds unrealistic? Probably is. If not, time will tell.

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