Day 6 — Dear relatives/family I’m fond of

Note: I’ve had a lot of trouble dealing with my extended family in general. Each one increasingly gave me reasons not to like them. Whether it’s their constant interference in my life (or that of my immediate family’s), or it’s their irreversible need to show off about how and why they perceive their families to be better…it was all unnecessary growing up. And it made me loathe them, for a while in my life. Then I realised it wasn’t worth my time and energy. So, I just focused on the select few that brought happiness to me. This is for them.

Dear relatives/family I’m fond of,

When I started this letter, I actually realised that there were not many people I’d write this to.

To start with, my grandmom. Probably the MOST amazing lady I’ve been blessed with. She’s been such a wonderful light in my life, shining happiness whenever I am around her. She has stuff to talk to me about that are about world happenings, local news and gossip, or just plain family stuff. But at the same time, if I wanted to ramble on about something, I know she’ll always be willing to listen to me. She is probably one of the most forward thinking of a lot of people in her age group from our culture, and for that I will forever be grateful. For the little quirks that come with it all, I love you!

Next, some of my wonderful family (though distant) in the US. Each one of you – N, K, Shu and Chi – and your parents have just been absolutely amazing people, for whatever time we have gotten to spend with each other. I cherish the fact that I have such inspirational people in my life to look up to, and to stand together with. Thank you, and I love you, for being such delightful people!

Next up, S. We’ve weathered a lot of storms (so to speak) with our respective families. And with those that inevitably connect us. I know I probably haven’t done you the justice of being your cousin sis in the past couple of years, but every time I see you, I realise that I don’t need to worry. Any number of years from now if and when I see you, it’ll be like barely any time has passed.

And finally, saving the best for last. My almost namesake, NK. I cannot believe we haven’t bonded before this. I feel like we were meant to be sisters forever, not just cousins. You’ve been my most shining exception of ‘I don’t hang out with my family much’, because you brought out a side in me I hadn’t had before – for any family member. You taught me to laugh at silly things, to joke about the trivial and mundane stuff that could get us down, and to smile more. Discovering and rediscovering random TV series’ with you is one of the most fun things EVER. You, missy, were also the reason I could get the parents to get on board about the tattoos, so I will be forever thankful for that! I love how you have seamlessly become a part of my friends’ circle too. You should know it is completely because you have a stellar personality, and there is barely any reason for people not to delight in your company. If they do, they’re not worth it in the first place! I want you to know that you mean the world to me, and I’d go to the moon and back for you if you asked me to :)

I end this here with a parting thought. There are people I’m related to in my life that I love, and there are people I tolerate. I don’t hate or despise anyone, because no one has given me a reason to. I may not like some of them from time to time, but then again, you can”t always like everyone, right? I’m just glad I’m allowed to interact with who I want, when I want. And I’m glad that I choose  to be happy, irrespective of which of these people chooses to be part of my life (or doesn’t).

Love,

Me

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Day 5 — Dear friends that are like family

Note: I have some friends who have become like family. Thanks in major part to the fact that Mum is a teacher, and these are mostly men who were her students at some point. And one who wasn’t. All, truly wonderful men.Dear friends that are like family,Where do I even begin this letter? Each of you has played such a wonderful role in my life; I don’t think my story would ever be complete if you hadn’t.

To start with, RD. You were there for me at a time when I felt there was no where to turn. Facing what I did with my family, and sometimes friends, in those high school years…You were someone who gave me the advice, the push to carry on. You showed me that no matter what life threw at me, I was strong enough to deal with it. And if I wasn’t, you were always there, waiting till I got back on my feet…letting me know in your own way that life was going to be okay. And you probably made the most difference in my life by stepping in, during those years when I was missing the comfort, guidance and solace of a brother. By being the brother I couldn’t have at that time. Only because the one I had and I couldn’t figure out that bond for the longest time. You’ve changed my life for the better, and even if we barely talk as much as we used to, if ever, know that the place you hold in my heart is very special, and always will be.

Coming to the six wonderful people who became a part of my life thanks to Mum – Sha, Sho, Re, Ka, Wa and Vi (Sorry men, it was easier this way :P ). All of you have been absolutely wonderful for my mum. Being there when she needed someone to pour her heart out too – because we all know she did. I was still finding my way in life till I became that person for her as well. But, I think each of you gave her heart an incredible amount of solace through the pain she felt. Perspective to all the problems and situations she put forward. And a warm hug when there was nothing left to say. For that, I’m forever thankful to each of you. If not for you all, I may not have had the strength to the bond that I share with her today.
Sha, you’ve always been the one to make Mum feel at ease. And with me, you have been the one to give me straight up what you think. You’ve been rather open about all that goes through your mind. I wish we’d talk more, I wish we’d lived more memories together. But, for all that we have, and all that we will, know I’ll always love you habibi :)
Sho and Re…You guys became a major part of my life in the past couple of years, more than ever. You were always there in our lives, but I felt your presence when we connected over time. Having you both in the same country as me gave me a sense of peace. To know that if I wanted to hear a friendly voice or feel love and warmth without judgement or reason, I could just come see you guys. Even though we don’t have that now, I’ve made some stellar memories with you both. Sho, in particular, you have always made me realise what joy I bring into your life. You don’t know what an amazing feeling it is, to be able to feel that. And some of the things you say, have always made my heart glow. Thank you, for being a sounding board for Mum and me, and for all the wonderful things you say and do for us. Re, you have been one of those people that has brought a lot of sunshine in my life. We don’t talk much – more your fault than mine :P – but when we do, I’ve made awesome memories :) All I ask is you keep in touch more. But even if you don’t, I won’t hold it against you! I love both of you very much, to the moon and back even!
Ka, you’re pretty much in the same boat as Re with the keeping in touch part. But as I said, I won’t hold it against you. Well, maybe a little bit, but only because I could have seen so much more of you when we were in the same city. You have always been someone I could have a conversation with endlessly, and it didn’t have to be about something in particular. It just gave me pure joy. I love you to bits mister, and always will.
Wa. You bring that happy energy to us at home. You have been wonderful with my friends circle, and to Mum, and to anyone who knows you in general. Take care of your heart, and know that I’ll always be there to look out for you. Much love!
Last, but not the least, Vi. You may not have been around much, but when I talk to you, I feel like a little child all over again. Not in the sense that you belittle me, but that you encourage me to see the joy that life has to offer! You’ve lost that in your life a bit recently I feel, and I honestly hope you get it back. Love you beby ;)

All of you are deserving of my love and there is not one moment I would take back that we have shared. I’d not change anything either, except maybe that I hear more from most of you.

Know I am here when you need me. It is a promise I intend to keep. And know, that promise is not an empty one.

Love,

Me

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